Thursday, January 7, 2010

Life as a Family of Four

All soft and cuddly
So little
Baby bunting

If you've been reading along, most of you know how anxious I was about how life would change with two children. I was worried about how I would give both attention, love, etc. That all came very naturally. Christopher took to his little brother by the second day. I think he really likes him. He goes over to him and waves or pats him on the head which is so adorable! I love watching them interact. The other day Drew was crying and Christopher went to put his pacifier in his mouth. Drew wouldn't open his mouth for it, so Christopher leaned down to him and went "ahhhh" in order to show him what to do :)

Life is definitely different with two! It feels like we're more of a family. When we had Christopher people viewed us as Chris and Marjorie with a baby. Now that we have two, we're a family of four. Chris has to help a lot more. I used to do everything for Christopher (Chris had never bathed him for example), but now that Andrew requires so much of my attention Chris has taken on more responsibilities. In many ways I think it's great because I'm such a perfectionist that I didn't let Chris help as much as he could have. We work more as a team now when it comes to feedings, baths, and getting the kids out to the car, etc.

It hasn't been as stressful or difficult as I thought to care for two. The first day I was home alone went really smoothly and we followed a good routine. I find doing things for both boys simultaneously works best. In the morning Christopher is up by 7am, so I get up too and dress both boys at the same time, fed them at the same time (nurse Drew while Christopher eats), play with them together and lay them down for their naps together. I even ventured out to 3 different stores 30mins away the first day I was home with them!

I'm realizing more and more that the experience I had with children as the oldest of 13 kids really comes in handy. I know what I'm doing, I've done this before. Most new moms wouldn't dream of even going out the first day home alone with one baby! While I think the majority of the time I was growing up I hated all of the responsibilities I had, I've come to the conclusion that I'm fortunate to have them. I can honestly say that I never been lost about what to do when it comes to taking care of a child. I know when to call the doctor and when not to, when something is serious enough to go to the ER and not. I've seen sicknesses, stitches, broken bones and developmental milestones. In fact, there have been times when I knew what was wrong before the pediatrician did. Christopher caught roseola at 9mos and I knew it was that immediately. The doctor reassured me that it was probably nothing, but sure enough 3 days later he broke out in the tell tale rash that follows the illness. This isn't to say that there hasn't been challenges, but I'm not the un-showered, walking zombie I thought I'd be. Life with 2 has been good :)

5 comments:

  1. I loved how you did if yourself the first few days with no help!

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  2. I think about the "perfectionist" thing a lot. Since I'm a nurse and take care of babies every day, I know it's going to be hard for me to let go of things being done a certain way. I'll have to learn, b/c I'll be going back to work, most likely full time. A good lesson in dying to self. Glad to hear things are going well.

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  3. He is such a F!!! Do you have any pictures of your self or your siblings to compare him to? From what I can remember of the kids baby pictures, I would say he looks a lot like Ph. But it has been awhile. What does everyone else say?

    My fav picture is the baby bunting one!- lr

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  4. he doesn't look much like me when i was a baby, but similar to the younger ones. his baby pic looks a lot like christopher's except that christopher's face is chubbier. i'm starting to see that drew is going to have the blue eyes too.
    speaking of comparing, we took out a pic of chris at christopher's age now and they look identical! it's actually a little scary. i have to post the pics on here for comparison.

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  5. So interesting how you noticed the white rim around the blue in the eye. I think that is the way to tell blue eyes from brownish blue. -lr

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