Wednesday, February 16, 2011

What I Wish I Could Tell...

I know this post won't be read for weeks from now, but I have so many thoughts/concerns/worries going through my mind at this time....

We found out on January 19th that I'm expecting baby number 3! I found out at ONLY 3 weeks along. I tried one of the new First Response "Early Result" Pregnancy Tests. They're brand new on the market. You can take one almost a week in advance and know if you've been naughty or nice ;) It's good to know so early (you can take care of yourself/plan), but on the other hand you have an extra week of worry. I found out 2 days after this painting project. Now I'm so worried about painting while pregnant.
The photo above was taken only 11 days after trying. Amazing! The line is hardly visible in this picture, but it was there. The one below was a few days later and much darker. Anyway, just think this technology is so cool.  
I'm due October 1st and I'm so trilled about that. We also joke incessantly because everyone is going to do the math and realize we crossed "expanding our family" off our "2011 To Do List" pretty quickly. I've ALWAYS wanted an October baby. It's my favorite time of year and of course close to my birthday. I'm crossing my legs and determined to make it to October. 

I didn't think I'd be this excited for number three. I know people probably think I'm crazy for wanting/having another, but I just can't get enough of Christopher and Andrew. They're so cute and they love each other so much. It will be interesting to see how they react to a new sibling and how that will change our family dynamic. Praying for this little one....

21 comments:

  1. I don't think you need to stress about the painting, seriously. When the babies are that super tiny, things are just beginning to take place.....many people have had alcohol in the first few weeks without even realizing they were pregnant, and they had absolutely zero issues. And alcohol seems "worse" than paint fumes. I think you are fine.

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  2. I think it's wonderful. And as for painting. Don't worry too much about it. Though I might recommend that you looking into the low VOC branded paints they are a much safer alternative for the environment, for you, and babies...

    BTW you have been dropping so many hints in recent weeks that it was only a matter of time before you spilled the beans. I'll be praying for a safe and healthy pregnancy.

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  3. its pink that means girl

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  4. I'm happy for you, but I DO think you are crazy. :) Your boys are still little...to add another to the mix??? BRAVE. Or crazy. Your call.

    Do you worry at all that you aren't going to be able to give adequate and fair time to all of your children now? I mean, with Andrew especially being so small.

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  5. Well Christopher will be 3 and Andrew nearly 2 by the time this baby arrives. Andrew has actually been the baby of the family longer than Christopher has! Before Andrew I did worry about dividing up my time, but now that I see Andrew and Christopher together (playing, talking, etc) I realized even when I can't give them my full attention they are also getting attention/interaction from each other. There's a lot that siblings can give to each other that adults/parents can't. Andrew learned to crawl sooner than Christopher did (I think because he wanted to keep up with him). I'm sure once the time comes we'll adapt with how to share our attention and time.

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  6. I am so excited for you (and hoping you have a little girl to mix things up)!! Oh and I don't think you are crazy at all. I want lots of kiddos, I just need to finish school :\ Love you prayers to you and your family!!

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  7. Congratulations! So exciting! Each new baby/pregnancy is uniquely special and exciciting!!!

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  8. Can I just say that I think it is GREAT that you are having another? Great ... great ... great. Our greatest gift to our children is siblings!!

    God is so good.

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  9. Congratulations! What a fun post! So cute that you wrote it before you were ready to post it.

    You are certianly not crazy one tiny bit. Children are a blessing from the LORD. I think it is crazy when a family waits years and years to have a first kid because they are so busy and I find it crazy when mothers work fulltime outside of the home. I could not imagine leaving my girls home with someone else to raise them- I miss them so much when I run out to go grocery shopping :)

    How amazing you can find out so early these days. Did you have any symptoms that you noticed before you found out?

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  10. Thanks girls! That puts things into perspective.

    I didn't have any symptoms other than my morning temps were really, really high (we use the BBT method). Like low grade fever high.

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  11. Children are absolutely a blessing, cherish every moment with them. That said, there are many blessings in life. I want my girls to know they can do anything, be anything - be it an astronaut or a stay-at-home mom. And I hope they grow up in a world where people aren't judgemental of their decisions. Just because they're at daycare doesn't mean they are being raised by someone else. It means they're enjoying a day filled with fun and games and friends. They are learning independence and how to share. And, no matter what, they know their mother loves them more than life itself. And they can also respect their mother for her hard work and desire to continue growing in her career. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have the opportunity to stay-at-home. Or to "work" at home while parenting. Enjoy your life for what it is and let others enjoy theirs. (MJ I realize this isn't in response to you, but for all the working mothers out there, I hope you post it. Considering you were willing to post the comment that called us crazy.)

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  12. Well put Anonymous. I went to daycare because my mom had to work and I never felt less loved. There are benefits to daycare as well like social interaction with other children. I get to work with my kids, but I've been looking for ways to give them the social interaction they miss that other children who go to school/daycare get.

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  13. I would like to second the post by Anonymous in which she urges that we not just group all mothers that leave their children in daycare as "crazy." I think that's inappropriate to say--very short-sided. Also, some families wait "years and years" for very good reasons. Just as LR suggests that it's crazy to WAIT on kids, who's to say it's not crazy to RUSH into having kids. So which is right? Who is wrong? The answer is that no one is right and no one is wrong. Every family is different, with different financial constraints and different goals in life. I think we need to remember to watch what we say. Being so quick to judge is downright ignorant. Hope you post this, MJ. I think this is a pretty important conversation.

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  14. Personally, I have much more respect for my mother who is a working mom. I have friends that have been raised by stay at home moms and they feel they are entitled to everything. I am very grateful for what my mother has given me and that she knew that to make our family survive she had to work. I would never accuse my mom of being crazy for not staying home to raise me. Now while I am not accusing stay at home moms for some families that works and for them that is fine. But not every family can survive on one paycheck and that certainly does not make that family crazy.

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  15. Thanks for everyone's input. It's a tough decision with raising children. There are moms that want to stay at home that can't afford to, moms that want to work but can't afford childcare, moms that like working and do and moms that like staying at home. SO much goes into that decision. I will say that I enjoy being with my children and working with them. I'd like to be a stay at home mom for a few years one day too.

    In defense of LR, I agree that it's NOT a good idea to wait years for kids once you are married. It's a growing problem in our country that women are waiting TOO LONG to have children and putting careers first. Look at the increase in fertility treatments which has led to an increase in multiple births which has led to an increase in pre-mature birth/birth defects. It's clear to see that advanced maternal age (over 35) = increase in health problems for moms and babies. I think the medical community agrees with this as well.

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  16. LOL....it's funny reading this. ah Marjorie, God is good. You and Chris are so blessed. Praise God for this little one and this awesome family you guys have. :)

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  17. Just because a mother is staying home doesn't mean she will have entitled children. It's your job to make sure you raise well-rounded children...whether you stay home or work.

    Just because someone has seen friends turn out that way doesn't mean that all situations such as this breed bratty kids.

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  18. Looking back at my comment, I now would have worded it less strong. I often feel defensive of mothers like myself because our culture often makes us feel to think that we do not work just because we do not leave the house in the morning. I really do not like the phrase "stay at home mom" because my work is raising my kids at home. I rather call women like me "raise at home moms." MJ, I think that you have the best arrangement of a mom who works. As you tutor, it reminds me of what a homeschooling mother does with kids of varying ages.

    I would now rephrase what I was saying to, "I cannot for the life of me understand why a mother would choose to work outside her home and away from her small kids and babies if she and her husband could afford for her to stay home. I have a friend who has a work commitment that she has to stay with for the next few years. She made a promise and is stuck with that for a few years. I think she is wonder woman as she has been able to pump for her baby and has also opened her home up to a live in relative so she can take care of her son. I am surrounded by raise at home moms- not because I have wealthy circles but because they sacrifice a lot to be with their kids. I think that our culture (reflected in the media and tv shows) tells many people a lie- it tells us that we will be happier if we have a huge home and new cars and wonderful vacations and eat out every weekend and have the latest phone and the best clothes. Yet, physical belongs like those do not bring joy into our lives.

    I do not understand when women can afford to stay home yet choose not to because they are keeping up with their neighbors- I have seen many women who choose a fancy car, big house, and amazing vacations over time with their kids. Many women work outside the home while their husbands are advancing their education- That I understand. Education is very important to me. For the family who thinks the wife needs to work outside the home, I would ask her to think about all the costs she incurs and all the time taken up. Here is an interesting article. http://hubpages.com/hub/The-Hidden-Costs-of-a-Second-Income


    Life is so short and children grow up in a blink of an eye. One of the most common regrets I have heard from older women is that they would have started their families younger and have had more children. Women who have children while they are younger also increase their fertility as they age. A woman who has had a child in her twenties is more fertile in her thirties than a woman who has not.

    To those of you who choose to work away from your kids because you want to and not because you need to- I just personally cannot understand it and I am curious to know if in 50 years you would have made the same choice."

    On a side note, I have personally seen a higher divorce rate among "career" women.

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  19. Wow L.R. very well put! I think I agree 100% with everything you said, especially in regards to material possessions. I think our world is so caught up in "things" rather the important things in life like people and our relationships. Thanks for the interesting facts as well.

    Thanks to everyone else for their input as well.

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  20. Off topic, but what is the BBT method?

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