Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Old Wives' Tales

According to all the tales, Christopher should have been a girl. I had severe morning sickness, he had a fast heart beat, I carried high, the Chinese gender predictor said 93% chance of a girl....he is all boy. With Andrew all the same symptoms as Christopher, but low heartbeat, carried low, same gender prediction of girl and....another boy! I don't think I can count how many people told me I looked like I was having another boy this last time since "I was all belly and carrying right in the front." My doctors were convinced that it would be a boy since "boys tend to come in threes." The Chinese gender chart said boy...and I had a girl :)

Everyone wants to know if I felt any different or had any different symptoms this time around...not really. I carried the same way for Evangeline as I did with Andrew. I had the same back pain, heartburn and cravings as I did with both boys. The only thing that was different for me was that I had night sickness that was worse than morning sickness. Is that the magic gender predictor? I don't think so. I think every pregnancy and baby is different. Old wives' tales are just a bunch of nonsense that were created before ultrasounds or scientific methods existed. It really bothered/bothers me hearing them because some people put so much faith in them and tell you so matter-of-factually what your baby will be. I also think some of them are offensive as well (ones pertaining to the appearance of the mother).

I know I talked about this on facebook, but I'd love to hear some of the silly theories people were told when they were expecting! Were they correct? Also am I the only one that loves to run into people after the baby is born and tell them their predictions were wrong? :0   

17 comments:

  1. oh sheesh. those things are so funny. lol. my husband's grandmother believes that if your nipples are brown during pregnancy you're having a boy. lol.

    cheers.

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  2. Before we found out what Elliott was, we looked at all the old wives tales and predictors, and they all pointed to boy. For some reason, my pregnancy played into almost all of them. I never trusted them, and we even had a girl's name picked after the ultrasound...just in case. However, my gut instinct from the moment I saw that plus sign was "boy."

    The offensive one that I didn't play into was the one about girls taking the beauty away from the mother. This little guy did a number on my skin that I'm still trying to fix. My cousins were pregnant at the same time and one had lovely skin and the other had skin like mine...both had girls.

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  3. Camille- Wow, can't believe that one! I'd think someone would be too embarrassed to say that to a pregnant woman.

    Megan- That's so funny you said that you thought Elliot was a boy the moment you found out. I had that REALLY strongly with Andrew, that he was a boy. Literally, it was the 1st thing I thought/felt when I took a pg test. Apparently there is research to support that the mother's instinct is right on the gender 75% of the time. That I do believe.

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  4. Hahahha!!! You are adorable!!!! You made me giggle today ;)

    Ali xoxo

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  5. I really thought I was having a boy! I had no morning sickness and everyone had a "feeling" it was a boy too, as did I. I was so wrong. I was surprised too because I really trusted my intuition.

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  6. Come to think of it, everyone insisted I was having a boy with my first, it was a girl. :) then w my second they MORE than insisted it was a boy-"since they run in our family." it was a girl too! I am pretty sure I remember enjoying rubbing in the fact they were girls both times. ;)

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  7. Ali- I love how people make all the family connections. It's 50/50 every time! Also I met a lot of not so kindly intentioned people that thought it would be hilarious if I had 3 boys...ugh. Love running into them now! ;0

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  8. Haha, the nipple thing is ridiculous...it's a hormonal skin change and happens to most women. Wow people are brazen, huh?

    I think it just drives people nuts these days not to know since many people choose to find out. They have to say something. I've encountered people I work with literally harass Moms-to-be if they don't share the name/gender. Wonder what they'll say about me since I don't think we'll share either the first time around.

    -Ania

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  9. I had horrible all day sickness (hyperemisis gravidium) until 15 weeks gestation. I carried really low and was all belly. Owen's heart rate was always really fast (in the 170s and the 160's right before he was born). I had a lot more "girl signs" then "boy signs" but I had a feeling he was a boy all along.

    My poor sister in law was told "Oh you must be having a girl. The girl baby always steals the moms beauty." Not only is that a really rude way of telling the pregnant mom she looks ugly but the woman wasn't even right she was pregnant with a boy!

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  10. Ania-I think you hit the nail right on the head with where this all comes from. People are used to women finding out and having their curiously instantly gratified.

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  11. that's too funny - I showed the chinese chart to my husband and he will use it. I'll tell him it was wrong for you haha

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  12. I think Ania is right as well. People are nosey and need to know if you are having a boy or girl. I too am not going to find out for at leas the first one (Ryan's not a fan of that one, but has accepted that it's something I really want to do). I hope people are nicer about it.

    To be 100% honest, I have never heard that girls steal the beauty from the mamas. That shocks me because I always think pregnant women exude beauty! And who in their right mind would insult a pregnant woman?!?! Crazy people.

    As for the other wives tales about carrying everywhere with girls, straight out with boys, etc...my mom fit them all to a T. I wonder where I will fall into this mix.

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  13. That Chinese Gender chart has been wrong about every single one of my pregnancies. Except for this one.

    And one of the other moms at preschool told me last week that she was sure I was having another boy because I am carrying a basketball straight out front again (just like I have every other time).

    It's nice when people "just know" these things and feel the overwhelming urge to share them with you. Ugh.

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  14. The old wives tale that I think is cute (but probably not accurate) does pertain to the woman's appearance...but it isn't negative. It goes like this: If a woman feels extra beautiful while she's pregnant, then perhaps it's a girl because she has the beauty of TWO women shining through her. If she feels normal and just like herself, then she's still just one woman (implying that the other person inside is a boy). :)

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  15. I know it is funny that everyone was saying all that simply stuff about the gender and they always end up being wrong!

    Petchie
    http://itsallofthelittlethings.blogspot.com/

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  16. forget the old wives tales. the mama always knows. i was right with both my boys!

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  17. So I can finally comment on your blog!!! This pregnancy has been very different from my first with Olivia so EVERYONE is saying "Oh it must be a boy" We haven't found out yet what we're having but it will be interesting to see if they're all wrong. I don't necessarily believe in the old wive's tales. I'm secretly hoping for another girl for Olivia to have a sister but I'll be happy either way!

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