Surprisingly all of these gender thoughts started when I was pregnant, even before I got pregnant. "Are you going to try again for a girl?" people asked after Andrew was born. That made me sad. I didn't have Andrew just to "try for a girl." Then when we announced baby #3 was on the way, the pressure! "This better/has to be a girl!", "Are you hoping for a girl?", "What if you have ANOTHER boy?", "I'm praying this is your girl", "Please tell me it's girl this time!", "2 boys? I bet you're hoping/praying this one is a girl!", and "Maybe God will be good to you and give you a girl this time." Those were just some of the things people told me over the last 9 months. Most people meant well, I'm just saying it was pressuring in a way.
If you noticed, I never talked about the gender of the baby much on this blog. I wanted to have the baby, before I talked about my feelings. I'll admit I was hoping for a girl and I did have a feeling it was a girl pretty much after we found out I was pregnant. Plus, remember my fortune cookie prediction? ;) I didn't want to jinx it or put more pressure on myself so I avoided the topic. Well here's a few things that I've found different...
-I love pink and have someone other than me to buy it for (but blue is my favorite color too)
-I have to remember to refer to them as "my kids" rather than "the boys."
-The doctors were the same way. At one of my checkups a doctor joked that if we got another blue bundle, we could always trade with someone else at the hospital for a pink bundle. I don't think so, my boys were too cute to trade! At the hospital a nurse said, "Well you got a girl and you know you tell everyone it wouldn't have mattered either way, but it really did matter";)
-There are way more girl aisles than boys in clothing stores
-I'm glad my mom now has a grand-daughter, my SIL has a niece and my only niece, a girl cousin
-I'm scared already about the teen years, but I'm also excited about having a mother-daughter relationship
-It's also not as different as I thought it would be. Babies are babies and many of the things they do has nothing to do with gender, but developmental stage.